A lot of references to the past Season of The Bachelor and The Bachelorette. Spoilers Ahead!
The final rose. The final last first kiss and walk down in the aisle to meet the love of your life. That’s something I hope comes to me one day. I absolutely am infatuated with love and relationships. I love the small details and moments that make you love a person. So naturally when I started watching a show with woman and men all searching for love I was hooked.
Of course, not everyone is going to get into the show The Bachelor/Bachelorette but I am so into it. A part of me loves this show because I haven’t felt or had the love towards me. Sure, I’ve dated and I’ve had moments so special to my heart but like the show the rose gets lost and the love gets lost. I’ve learned to be okay with that with the idea that if I didn’t want them or they didn’t want me then they don’t deserve the person I am and the love I have to offer. It still hurts and sometimes you’re left wondering why.
Heartbreak can hit you so hard, you can be so confident where you stand with a person and that feeling isn’t reciprocated and that’s tough. I’m a very invested watcher and try to relate everything I watch to something I could feel and watching this show I felt relatable in a lot of ways. There are times when I’m like Derek over there in the car crying looking out the window thinking about a lost love. That sounds pathetic but at least I’m being honest with you about my life.
I’ve been lucky to not meet so many bad guys in my life and those breakups I think HOW WAS I SO NAIVE AND STUPID? But the breakups that are with a great guy I think what did I do wrong? Was I too boring? Too annoying? Was I not pretty enough? The truth to that I’ve learned is that it doesn’t matter. I believe at first our hearts are meant for one other person, that’s it. So, if someone doesn’t want you there sometimes is never a real answer. Maybe the emotional connection wasn’t there, and maybe they do think your beauty isn’t enough for them. That does not mean you’re any less beautiful. Your worth should never be questioned on a heartbreak. As I’ve said before and always will say it you always are worth it.
One of my favorite sayings is Que Sera, Sera which translates to what will be, will be. Watching JoJo and Ben break hearts of people who are incredible made me realize that no matter what happens it’s all meant to be. The heart wants what it wants. There are also times when I’ve been with a guy and I let him go. He may be everything I want but there’s always something missing. I don’t feel that connection and he’s a great guy but better as friends. I like to be as fair to someone as they would be to me, I don’t like hurting people. Letting someone go is a way to show you care the person finds their happiness. That is a form of love.
In the end, in the finale when JoJo gave the final rose, her heart, and love to Jordan it was quite something to see. She finally said I love you to the one person she meant it to. For me, I never pick the winner of the show because I see something else in them that she didn’t see and right now they’re still together. JoJo’s happiness lead me to understand several things about the dating life.
It taught me that you can get hurt when you’re out there giving your heart. Someone can tell you they love you and you not mean it. You could mean the world to someone and you don’t feel the same. Unfortunately people will still flirt with you while being in a relationship. Someone could be everything you imagined and you just can’t let your heart fall. You could be in love with someone and realize that it’s not love you’re feeling being caught up in the moment. It’s all okay. In the end, I believe that all the heartbreaks, tears, and let downs will get you to somewhere amazing. It may not be as treacherous. There is someone out there meant for you. It’s in your plan. Have faith trust your heart. Love yourself, love your friends, love your family and life, and the rest will fall into place.
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What do you think about this? What do you think about love? I love to hear what you say but remember always spread love in the comments and be as kind as you can. Much love to you.