Growing up was a magical thing in my world. For one, I grew up surrounded by a good family, and a good idea of what a relationship should be. From watching countless Disney Princess and Romantic movies, my parents, and listening to all of Taylor Swift’s albums through the day and on repeat I had an excellent vision of my man. I could go into his dreamy physical appearance but honestly that’s not the first thing I look for. I have no idea why movies and people eat up love because now I feel like it barely exists.
My vision of my man is someone who completely gets me, is genuine, my best friend, a gentleman, attentive listener, and I could go on but someone who we mutually share love and respect for each other. Maybe you’re reading this and you have found that person in your life. I am so happy for you and I wish you the best and many years of growing and loving together. Me, on the other hand, I have not and I’m completely okay with that but something that I have been doing lately is settling. My best friend tells me this all the time “Why are you talking to him?” “He’s bad for you” “Don’t waste your time on him” and what do I do? I spend all my time and emotions for some mediocrity. Please please please listen to your best friend, she’s the one looking out for you.
It’s so easy with dating apps like Tinder to match up with many people and for the most part you won’t keep up with many of these guys. Out of my 1,000 matches from recently re-downloading I probably keep up with about 15-20 and mainly that’s because of Facebook and Instagram. It’s hard to be competition with other girls when you’re going through this. People you think you deserve won’t always like you. After let down, and let down. I’ve noticed my thoughts dropping. The relationships recently have been so flat. Either I care about them and they don’t appreciate me or vice versa. I’ve been talking to a lot of guys when I ask them what they’re gonna do with their life one told me he was going to live in the small town near my college (which the city is already so small) and he’s gonna live in a trailer on his big land then build a house and start a family. That’s so not my dream. It’s what I want to do down the road but not right away. I don’t want to settle my ambitions, and dreams for a guy who won’t reach mine. That’s something you have to take in and realize before you get caught up in emotions and ties.
You deserve someone who you feel like you aren’t settling with that you feel 100% whole and over the moon with. Someone you find who is everything for you is amazing. Even if your dream is to get married young and start a family that’s great. You just do you and find yourself someone who can not only let you be yourself but someone who compliments your dreams and aspirations. If you feel like you’re getting bored, or you’re missing out by talking to someone then ditch them. If you find yourself in relationship abuse get out right now that’s not good for you and you deserve the world. As Christina Yang once said on Grey’s Anatomy “Don’t let what he wants eclipse your needs. He is dreamy but he is not the sun. You are.” Take that quote to heart, don’t settle for mediocrity because you are the world.